How To Be Coachable: 9 Tips to Improve Coachability & Make the Most of Your Leadership Coaching Engagement
Coachability refers to the willingness to accept feedback and the ability to
improve.
When you’ve hit a performance plateau in your career, are failing to lead your team effectively, or are struggling in business - leadership coaching can help you shift gears and get you back on course.
The key, however, is being coachable and allowing a coach to help you.
It’s a natural instinct to become defensive when we are critiqued, perhaps
even develop a negative attitude when you feel someone is pointing out areas
where you are not doing well.
When an executive coach or leadership coach presents you with feedback it’s not to
attack you or tear you down - it’s to help you gain awareness, refocus goals,
and provide a little extra insight based on the excitement of seeing a new,
more clear path to what you have defined as “success”.
These nine tips below can help you be more coachable, improve your willingness
to learn, unlock the next level of your career, and help you attain the
heights of the most successful people in your industry, all while meeting all
of your business and life goals.

1. Listen to the Coach
The first step in becoming more open to coaching is - to actually listen
to what your coach says.
This is one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do, but it’s critical
if you want to achieve the next level of success.
When your coach offers advice or points out a mistake, don’t take it
personally. Keep in mind that failure can actually create success, and this is
what the coach is trying to help you achieve.
Listen to the advice provided by your coach and apply that advice to your
business just like an athlete would apply it to their game.
2. Remember the Coach Wants The Best For You
The main purpose of any coach, whether coaching athletes, business leaders, or
employees, is to help whoever they’re coaching break barriers and achieve new
heights.
Your coach is there to provide you with the feedback you need to be successful
in the face of challenges, help you see situations through a different lens,
apply new systems, and keep you from the pitfalls of old habits.
To be more coachable, remember that when you succeed - the coach succeeds.
It’s really that simple.
3. Ask Questions
When provided constructive criticism, ask questions. Don’t do it defensively
or in anger, but clarify with the person providing the information what they
mean just to be sure you understand it.
Coaches can provide you with specific details on why you are failing as well
as the mechanics for adjustment moving forward.
4. Don’t Make Excuses
Another natural instinct when hearing something negative about yourself is to
make excuses.
You may think the issue was the fault of other employees or perhaps because
the company “has always done it that way.”
Instead of instantly trying to explain why you did what you did, focus on
hearing the message you are being given.
Being coachable requires 100% accountability. Excuses are an attempt to pass
the buck.
5. Check your Ego
Nothing hinders coach ability like ego.
In the business world, if you’ve been in an industry for a considerable amount
of time it’s natural to develop confidence in the way you do things.
Ego may prevent you from admitting lack of up-to-date knowledge, flawed
processes, blind spots, or recognizing an evolved landscape.
Industries change. Processes change. If your ego gets in the way of
recognizing these changes, you could find yourself left behind.
6. Be Willing to Learn from More Experienced People
When you work with coaches, you’re seeking the advice of those who are more
experienced than you in some area.
In business, just as it is in a sport, coaching is designed to take you out of
your comfort zone, provide you with skills you may not have or didn’t know you
had, and push you on a path to greater success.
7. Seek Constructive Criticism on Your Own
The fact is - no one has all the answers.
Especially when it comes to growth, leadership & success.
But an important factor of coach ability, personal growth & professional
success is learning to seek assistance on your own.
Seeking constructive criticism and leveraging guidance from more experienced
professionals who are where you want to demonstrate you’re willing to learn
and that leadership development is important to you.
8. Be Gracious and Humble
Being coachable means you’re grateful for the chance to improve.
Even if you don’t agree with their advice - thank them for the time they took
to provide you with new tools and be humble enough to realize that they may
actually be correct.
9. Change Your Behavior
Pretending you agree with coaches in order to stop a critique is a common way
that leaders sabotage their coachability, progression, and hinder long-term
career success potential.
Attitude is a key factor in the process of changing behaviors, improving your
professional life, and advancing your career.
Being coachable means you must be open-minded, committed to a growth mindset,
and dedicated to breaking old habits and making lasting changes in your
behavior.
Even if you’ve gone head-to-head, when you apply what your coaches have told
you and you start seeing success, it’s important to let them know you
appreciate the hard work they put in.

10 Signs Of Coachability
If you have the right attitude and the ability to learn new things, being
coachable will come easy to you. Some signs that you are coachable or have
become more coachable can include:
- You are open with others
- You show support to your team members, or “other players”
- You are willing to put your ego aside
- You have a growth mindset
- You celebrate solid results
- You take steps towards transparency and openness
- You compliment the ability of others
- You listen to coaches actively try to be coachable
- You don’t take things personally
- You are always focused on progress
14 Coachability Red Flags
Contrary to the 10 points above, these 14 red flags can indicate if you are
resistant to coaching, lacking coachability, and potentially sabotaging career
growth:
- You talk more than you listen
- You never ask for feedback from other people
- You think that you know it all and never ask for help
- You dispute/seek proof as to why the constructive feedback you receive is wrong
- You tend to reject other people’s ideas
- You can’t accept criticism
- You don’t have a growth mindset
- You aren’t open to change
- Your attitude is usually negative
- You constantly see yourself as the victim in situations
- You always have a defensive reaction
- You don’t recognize contributors when they deserve it
- You have feedback phobia
- You avoid challenges
Why Being Coachable Matters
Being coachable is one of the most important traits of successful leaders.
Being coachable is about realizing your continued success requires being open
to learning from others, confronting uncomfortable truths, working hard, and
amplifying your performance.
The smartest, highest-achieving professionals see themselves as an evolving
work in progress and look to coaches that have the knowledge to help them level up faster and break through
the barriers that every leader faces at different stages in their career.
Phil Jackson, the most successful NBA coach in history who won eleven NBA
championships and coached superstars like Michael Jordan & Kobe said “Good
teams become great ones when the members trust each other enough to surrender
the Me for the We.”
When you focus on being coachable and trade the “me” for “we” you’ll level up
your leadership skills, boost team productivity, and increase overall company
effectiveness, improving not only morale but the bottom line as well.